the defining decade

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A coworker suggested I read read copy of,  The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–And How to Make the Most of Them Now, as my next year. I welcomed the suggestion with open arms. I couldn’t put this book down, it was half because of the message and partly because the text was at least 14 point text. Here’s a little a little synopsis on the book, “we have a “thirty-is-the-new-twenty” culture tells us the twentysomething years don’t matter. Some say they are a second adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized what is actually the most defining decade of adulthood.”

I was three pages deep into the book and I remembered about a year ago Paul sent me a link to this TedTalk and said watch it, you won’t be sorry. So, I challenge you to do the same. Watch this video. Tell me what you think.

The woman giving this TedTalk is the author of the book mentioned above. It was beyond interesting to hear and read her thoughts on why 30 isn’t the new 20 and what twentysomethings need to do to capture their future. The perfect way to sum up this book is fro this excerpt: The future isn’t written in the stars. There are no guarantees. So claim your adulthood. Be internal. Get to work. Pick your family, Do the math. Make your own certainty. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know your didn’t do. You are deciding your life right now. 

This read was beyond fascinating. If you read this book, I would love to hear your thoughts. If you watched that clip, I want to hear your thought, too. Do you agree with Dr. Jay?

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new year

As you all know by now, Matt has a blog. Matt’s blog is pretty awesome, but sometimes it is a little neglected so I push him to write more. I push him because I know he enjoys writing, but maintaining a blog is hard work– and I like omg it’s kendal ann to be a creative outlet for others, not just myself. Often I ask Matt to write on a particular topic, but other times he will come to me with ideas, like this one: New Year’s Resolutions; shocking for this time of year, right? Oh please, just because you saw the words New Years Resolution doesn’t mean you are going to stop reading. Trust me this is an awesome post. Anyway, this is an awesome post and I am really excited to see what will happen in 2014. I think he is, too! Setting NYR isn’t a bad thing, I used to be like Matt never making resolutions, but for some reason this just just seems different.

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new goals

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With it being after the first of the year, people have already had their New Year’s Resolutions in full swing (hopefully) for a few days now. Resolutions such as working out more, cooking healthier, spending less and so on are some of the most common resolutions that I’ve heard of, but I feel like they’re some of the most common resolutions that also never fully come to fruition.

One thing that I’ve never done is set a resolution for the New Year. Let me give you a second to pick your jaw up from the floor. Okay. Let’s go. Never have I ever set a New Year’s resolution mainly because I’ve always lived my life the way I’ve wanted to do it. Sure, I could use a few reps in the gym or stand to not spend as much money on things, but at the same time, I’m perfectly happy living my life the way I currently do.

This year won’t be any different in terms of not making New Year’s resolutions. I have none. At the same time, I still want to grow as a person and I know that I need to make some changes in order to help myself grow and mature more. So, I’ve come up with three things that I want to work at more during this upcoming year.

  1. Shoot more photos, both digital and film, with the film being black and white.
  2. Read more books.
  3. Write more.

With the first one on my list, I want to get back into the photography realm once again. I used to shoot every day for my job, but now that I don’t work there anymore, I haven’t picked up my camera since August. I miss it. Not only do I miss taking photos, I just miss the thrill of going on a walk, camera in hand, and just looking for interesting (to me) things to photograph. I really also want to break out my Dad’s Nikon F-3 and shoot some black and white photos. There’s just something about a black and white photo that gets me every time.

As a child, I read everything. I read the newspaper with my cereal, I read the box of the cereal, I read magazines and books and I was read to before I went to sleep each night. But as I got older, life happened more, making it harder to curl up with a book each night. In 2014, I want to finish a new book each month. I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to start a book and not finish it (unless I’m really not into it). So today, I finished the last book I was reading (which I started in November) and moved onto my January 2014 book. Here’s to reading more!

Finally, Kendal Ann has been putting out a new blog post each day and will so until she hits 365 blog posts – one for each day of a year. I started to get on that path, but once again, life happened and I was unable to keep it going. So I want to make a better attempt to write more during the coming year. Maybe not put out a blog post a day, but try and put a few out a week in order to keep my brain going and wet my whistle with some creativity.

Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution? If so, why? Did you follow through with it? If not, why?

Resolutions are too formal. Goals are more fun and really make you think about the smaller things that you have a tendency to miss out on when life happens.